ANGER MANAGEMENT
Some of the Issues that Stimulate Anger
Hopelessness – not seeing anything positive in our future, so why bother attitude erupts.
Suggested solution:
Find our purpose for being here in this world. Knowing our purpose is knowing our power. There IS a bigger picture, however we must seek it… for only the seeker shall find.
Helplessness – feeling like there is nothing that can be done about something we do not like.
Suggested Solution:
Develop an acceptance of things we cannot change yet commit to what we can change. So many things are out of our control, therefore it behooves us to focus on what we CAN control…..mainly ourselves.
Fear – fear creates an extremely angry feeling, enraged at not feeling safe in this world.
Suggested Solution:
Examine to see if the fear is a wisdom, as example, maybe we should not go to places that are dangerous or involve ourselves with people who dangerously create problems. We need to be conscious of surrounding ourselves with people whom we can trust. We need to try endeavors that feed our souls, being very careful not to invoke any kind of soul loss.
Lack of faith – not believing in a power higher than ourselves, staying with low thought forms
Suggested Solution:
- Find a group that believes
- Find a mentor who can connect us to something higher than ourselves
- Spend time with animals
- Walk in nature and really look at what has been so beautifully created
- Deliberately look for beauty in art, in films, in stores, in nature
Feeling unloved and unlovable – which leads to loneliness and angry isolation
Suggested Solution:
- Learning to care for ourselves ensures stability in our emotional being, our spirit and our lives.
- We need to be conscious of our self talk, saying only positive things about ourselves to ourselves
- We need to be conscious of our mind chatter, thinking only positive things about ourselves to ourselves
- We must concentrate and focus on things we like about ourselves
- We must be honest about the things we do not like about ourselves and commit to transforming them
- Acts of kindness always help our self-esteem; they are a protection against a feeling of unworthiness
- Look for people who we feel love others well and bring them into our personal life
- Be conscious of loving others, whether that be a person, an animal or the environment
Feeling Abandoned – left and not nurtured, which leads to intense hurt and rage
Suggested Solution:
We have all been abandoned at one time or another. The key is not to abandon ourselves. Being left can leave us with a feelings of low self-esteem and intense rage. We live in a world that is going so fast, in so many directions that abandonment seems to be occurring more and more. Therefore, no matter how old we are, we need to know that we are all children of the Universe and we will make it through. When one door closes, another opens, we just need to keep the faith.
Depression – a feeling of nothing seems worth anything, which usually comes from unexpressed and unresolved pent-up anger.
Suggested Solution:
- One sure way of getting out of depression, is everyday make a commitment to do five acts of goodness for someone or something
- Look to those less fortunate and do something about it. Being of service automatically sparks a new productivity
- Try to source our unresolved feelings and look for a good listener
- Invoke and know that to every problem – there is a solution
- Find guidance from others that we respect
- Go to a happy movie
- Play joyful music
- Read positive stories
Other easy suggested solutions that help transmute angry feelings
- Eat good healthy food
- Stay away from all substance, drugs, alcohol, anti -depressants (unless medically advised)
- Walk in nature
- Set a stage of serenity – water fountains, candles, soft music, or incense
- Place beautiful pictures where we live and work that connect us to our soul
- Be cognizant of being tidy and clean
- Read things that are uplifting. Go to the Good News Network where they report on positive news and stories daily
